Back in 2013, Meerut’s Sanju Rani Verma had to make some really tough choices. dealing with the grief of losing her mother, she had to decide whether she wanted to have a career she always desired or get married as her family members were asking her to. In her head, it was clear what she was going to do. She left home.
Sanju, who was pursuing post-graduation from Delhi University at that point, had to quit because of lack of money, but she did not give up on her dream of becoming a civil servant.
She rented an apartment in Delhi, started giving tuition classes and kept doing her preparations. 7 years later, she returned home as a PCS officer.
In an interview given to the Times of India, she narrated the whole thing.
My mother had passed away just a few days ago and my family started building up pressure to get me married. I tried to explain my point but all in vain. It was then that I decided that they cannot see the things from my perspective and I would rather live on my own because I was not ready to settle for anything less.
She further said that she doesn’t understand why families don’t let their daughters study and are obsessed with the idea of marrying them off.
They (the family) were upset with me because I started living by myself. But I know they will be happy to see me getting respect as an officer. I am very much aware of my responsibilities and want to support my family in every way possible. But I do not understand the societal pressure… not letting your daughters study and marrying them off.
Congratulations to you, Sanju Rani Verma.
May you make your dreams come true. Best of luck for the UPSC exam too.
Wouldn't have been easy to go against and leave your family, plus make it on your own in Delhi.
I hope they now understand why you had to go. https://t.co/eX8TFCQGhp
— Renuka Mishra (@renukamishra67) September 15, 2020
It takes courage and perseverance…
A title well deserved.
Congrats to Sanju Rani Verma https://t.co/uCNwX90LqA
— Jimy (@jimypothen) September 16, 2020
Glad to see the hard work of Sanju Rani Verma ji pay off. Congrats to her on this achievement.👏
But I also believe that marriage should not be a dead end for women's studies & career. If we can change this, we'll see more women leaders.@PriyankaJShukla @niharika_bhatt @GulPanag pic.twitter.com/TVaSh6y7t4
— Abhinav Saxena, IIS 🇮🇳 (@abhinavsaxena25) September 16, 2020
Determination and commitment look like this in real life.
More power to you Sanju Rani Verma! pic.twitter.com/yDVtTiFAmn
— Jitin Yadav, IAS (@Jitin_IAS) September 15, 2020
Her goal now is to become a divisional magistrate and she is preparing for the same. are never questioned is rather unfortunate that women have to go through these extra hurdles to do things which men are never questioned about.
So while this is a moment of pride of Sanju, it is also time for reflection for her family members and every other person who thinks that the only job of a woman is to get married.
Source: Scoop Woop